If a lady wishes to go further in her acquaintance with a gentleman she must make the first advance, and he must be ready at all times to meet such advances. If he meets the lady in the street, he should wait for her to bow and then take off his hat. If she stops to speak to him, he must never keep her standing, but must walk with her in the direction in which she is going. If he is riding at the time he must dismount and walk with her. The practice of walking arm in arm in the street is now out of date, but in a crowd it would be right for a gentleman to offer his arm to lady, or go before her to clear the way of her.
A gentleman must always raise his hat when a lady bows to him, even he does not remember who she is.
It is correct for a gentleman to stand up when a lady enters the room, and remain standing until she is seated. He must also stand up when she leaves the room, and should open the door for her. This rule should be observed whether the lady is known to the gentleman or not. A gentleman should follow a lady on going up or downstairs; but he must precede her on alighting from carriage or public vehicle.
A gentleman does not force his attention upon a lady. If she shows by her manner that his presence is not agreeable, he should withdraw at once. On the other hand, it is not etiquette for a gentleman to leave a lady abruptly just because she is bored with his company. He must wait for an opportunity to withdraw without hurting her feelings.
(sources : true to life personal workbook for intermediate Cambridge Press)
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